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I'm in love with a scrub?

6/17/2014

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On Facebook, one of my friends posed a discussion question from her local radio station: Is dating someone without a car (over the age of 25) a deal breaker?

Of course, several FB friends began to chime in with the expected YES. Adults, especially men should have vehicles, unless they live in New York City...right? It all reminds me of that late 90's tune from TLC "No Scrubs." The line is classic. "If you don't have a car and you're walking..." The message is clear. Women (and some men) don't want a man (or woman) with a bus pass unless his/her car is parked at the bus station because he/she doesn't feel like fighting with traffic.

My question to those who feel this way is this...

What does one have to do with the other? What does a man's car have to do with whether or not he will be a good boyfriend or husband? So, it's okay to date the jerk because he has a car, but wrong to date the nice guy because he doesn't? If a car is a deal breaker in dating, you might want to reassess your priorities.

There was a period of my life that I didn't own a car. I had a Master's degree, was working on a doctorate, and for a entire year, I didn't have a car. Did my lack of a vehicle make me un-datable or any less desirable? Who I am and how I treat my mate should be the focus, not if I have leather seats, a sunroof, and spinning rims. If you base your dating and marriage decisions on materialistic things, don't be surprised when the outcome isn't what you really need. If you want love, you must seek out someone who is loving and has the ability to love, not someone who has a car. If you get both, you're winning. But with all of the issues that you could face in a relationship/marriage, is a car really that big of a deal?       
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